Higher housing rents, need for conviviality and simplicity… students and young workers find today more and more reasons to choose to share their flat with strangers instead of living alone. However, sharing a flat is not always an easy job… Of course, there are some rules you should respect to ensure the future of your colocation.
When you share your own living space with people you do not know, it is important to learn to quickly adapt and this may require day-to-day efforts. Today we want to give you 10 golden rules to guide you through this incredible social experience, and trust us, follow these rules and you will succeed to become the perfect flat-mate!
#1- Get to know your flatmates
Shouting it from the rooftops is all very well and good, but communication is essential and that also applies to your relationship with your flatmates.
Talk, talk and talk more! This is the best way to get to know your flat-mates and find a common ground. Even if you’re not fond of small talks, unfortunately most conversations start from there. So be patient and get involved with the others! You will build a happy relation together, when everyone makes small efforts daily.
#2- Be respectful for the others
Just like you, your flat-mates have their own needs and lifestyles. Respect them. If you want to throw a midweek party, learn to ask them first, remember – communication is essential! Inform them about your plans, so that you can discuss about them and find compromises and solutions together. Nobody likes to feel forgotten or not considered. Respect their personalities and their way of living their lives and everything will turn out just great.
So, learn to walk in your flatmates’ shoes, before imposing them your own rules! Because sharing with other people also means to accept them.
#3- Talk freely about what bothers you
One of your flat-mates has never washed the dishes? Never cleaned up the apartment? Let them know – calmly – what you think! Most important, don’t wait ‘til a conflict blows up to talk about what bothers you. If you talk tactfully and diplomatically, you will see that you will find a solution to your problems without any side-effects.
#4- Be fair during conflicts
Sometimes you cannot avoid conflicts. This is perfectly normal. Just like all couples have arguments, you and your flatmates may as well disagree on something. Our advice is to avoid low bowls. Nobody wins when the relationship is ruined for going too far.
So, even if this may be difficult especially in the heat of the moment, do not give in to anger.
#5- Help with the housework
First of all, split the tasks equally with your flatmates. Everyone must take their turn. This will avoid anarchy and conflicts in the apartment!
#6- Do stuff together
Whether it be for watching a film, playing board games, sharing a drink or throwing a big party… organise your activities together! The best way to get along with each other, is laughing together 🙂
Take the time to do stuff together and your complicity will be boosted!
#7- Be clean
Clean after yourself, nobody is there to clean after your mess, except for you! Whether it be a spot on the table, hairs in the shower or your dirty mug, clean it!
This will only take 5 minutes of your time but will have a much bigger impact on the others’ mood!
#8- Be organised
In your room you are the king of your personal space. However, the common areas do not belong to you entirely. So, don’t overcrowd the common storage and keep your personal belongings in your room.
This will help you to keep the flat clean and tidy and avoid the battlefield-look!
#9- Pay your part of the rent and bills on time
Money always creates conflicts. Be on time with your payments and nobody will complain about you. Even if you feel closed to your flat-mates, this does not allow you to be late with your part of the rent, because if you don’t pay, they will have to pay for you.
#10- Cook and eat your meals together
There’s nothing better than cooking and eating together to create a bond with your flat-mates! Cooking together can be fun and playful, and if everyone does its part, you will all save time.
You don’t have to cook and eat together every single day, but why not one or two days per week. Trust us, this will help you grow together and learn new cooking tricks!
So, do you feel ready to jump into your next flatshare? Have a look at our apartments – they all are fully equipped (internet, housing insurance, furniture and a lot more!).
In a Chez Nestor flatshare, all you have to do is bringing your luggage and enjoying your new home!
Our rooms look like this:
Pretty neat, aren’t they? And we have a lot more like these rooms! Take a look for yourself.
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